Former Gossip Girl star informs us on her day-to-day life and her mission to spread optimism and love.
By Katy Herman
I’m a mom, actress, jewelry designer, lover of life.
How would you sum up what you do? What does a typical day look like?
Each day is different. It’s starts with a cappuccino, and the rest is always new and exciting.
Tell us about your most recent projects, both in your career and as an outspoken advocate for women.
I have been working doing a series called Gone for NBC International and on my jewelry line and traveling. I’m also writing a book.
Which of your achievements are you most proud of? Can you tell us what got you through your biggest challenges?
I love what I do and the people I work with. It’s part of gathering greater awareness, realizing we all have our own challenges. I think gratitude is what gets me through, looking around and within, and noticing what I am thankful for: What is going right. What is working. Where there is love.
What issues are most important to you right now? What is the change you most want to make in the world?
The most important issue is to take the focus off the things that bring us stress and to focus on what brings us joy. It’s a worthwhile practice. If we want to see more joy in the world and more peace, we find it in and around ourselves first. And what a gift to give others: They can hear what your joy is, what you love. You arrive with good energy.
What do you do to relax and take care of yourself? What are you currently watching, reading, or listening to?
I read magazines on the plane and watch films that way, too. I take care of myself more, listening to what I feel. I rest when I am tired, eat when I am hungry, let go of things that are weighing me down. Align with all that is good and what I desire. Massages are quite good, too!
Where can we find you when you’re not acting, designing, or spreading positivity on Instagram?
I am probably on a plane or resting or with my kids. Enjoying time with the people I love and who inspire me. And I love to just putter around my apartment organizing things.
What’s the best piece of advice you’ve ever been given?
My mother said a few things. One is “People will come and go.” Your work and what you love to do will always be there. And you will know you are in the presence of a powerful person because you will feel powerful when you are around them.
What’s the best piece of advice you’ve ever given someone?
Just do your best—and that may feel different every day.
How do you feel you’re making a difference in the world, in big or small ways? How is your work helping other women?
I believe by not relying on others for our happiness and not adding to others’ suffering, we are making a difference. By taking care of ourselves, we are helping others. Women are supporting other women. That is feminism at its best…. Blaming others is a waste of time—uplifting and empowering each other is much more efficient and joyful.
You use Instagram to spread optimism and love. How do you feel social media can be a positive tool of change?
Everything is awareness, realizing how powerful we are as creators and understanding that what you put out you get back. All energy.
We have to ask about Gossip Girl. The show inspired an entire generation of young women. In what ways do you think the show changed what it means to be a young woman today?
I believe the show started a conversation between kids and their parents, realizing that we are all figuring it out as we go along, young and old. And, of course, the importance of fashion… [she said with a wink].
Who is a Woman of Empowerment in your life—a woman who inspires you, that you look up to?
All women inspire me. We are incredibly resilient and beautiful creators. The new world is about trusting our kindness and love and divine intuition, and knowing there is only love.
My mission is…Love.